Wrong Way Kids - Issue I

Chapter 5
Community (Deflated) Chest

Chapter Description: An interview with one of our community's hundreds of talents. This month: Robbie Rainbow, the photographer, videographer, and web designer.

Friends,

In this column, you will find an interview or other promotional piece that will shed light on an AR project on which another community member is working. With hope, you’ll read the contents of the column and elect to partake in whatever media your fellow friend in AR has to offer.

Today, I did a two-hour interview with RobbiexRainbow, a boy whom I count as a close personal friend even though I’ve never met him. As webmaster of (now defunct) scenestercrinkle dot com, he is an extremely intelligent, creative, and motivated social butterfly, and he has been with us for many years-- perhaps you’ve seen his contributions to the AR and ABDL communities, perhaps not. But his inspiring exuberance has made ripples throughout our little corner of the internet that you might not even have known you felt.

This is his chance to talk to you.

LT: When was the moment, or was there a moment, when you suspected that social networking and AR/ABDL could and should be integrated?

RR: Hmm... Living in this day and age, I can’t exactly say there was a specific moment for integration. Social networking has always brought tons of benefits to any group of people that share a collective idea. I first found out about DPF when I was fourteen, which was my first experience with an ABDL social network. And it kind of grew from there, finding more sites and posting more pictures until I eventually adapted into a full social network at eighteen, first being RUPadded.

LT: Indeed, your generation is natively digital-- that is, you grew up parallel and intertwined with the internet. When did you decide to expose this side of yourself, and what was your thought process, when the generation before you so values their privacy?

RR: 90s kids woot woot! And I got into doing pictures and posting them probably the week I found out about dprbys.net - I forget what it was called back then. tbdl.net I believe. Anyways, I was still 14 at the time and it was the only place that I knew of, and still am aware of, that allows persons below the age of eighteen to post ABDL pics. I never thought much of it at the time, at least not off the bat. It wasn’t long before I grew accustomed to a not-so-awesome group of people eyeing me. And as for my family with the previous generation, I was always left alone on that nature. Being the only one in my entire family to even remotely understand the internet, no one questioned much of what I was doing in my free time with it.

LT: As an experienced creative force, what advice would you have to give to aspiring photogs, videogs, writers, etc., to safely network without having their "dual lives," if they see it as such, exposed?

RR: There is no way to completely remove the risk of it ever happening. The best advice I could give it to make sure you have a different alias to use. When I started, I used "RobbiexRainbow" for both my Vanilla life and ABDL life. It wasn’t hard for people to see the two. So at one point, I had to pick one to change and I decided to change the Vanilla one. With the different alias, make sure it is associated with a different email that is ONLY used for that lifestyle. I wouldn’t even recommend tying it up with a trash email for spam. Don’t post anything that you can’t see yourself explaining later on if someone were to unearth it. Granted, there will be people that are just impossible to explain it to, but knowing that you have a solid explanation ready is enough to honestly use as a filter for if that person should even be part of your life. There is also no shame in blurring/hiding your face, if pictures are going to be involved. I personally don’t blur, and I haven’t run across a situation where my lifestyle has been an issue for me. I’ve honestly met less than a handful of people, in almost seven years of doing this, that have gone as far as to hate me for it. I would strongly advise against trying to force your lifestyle on someone, either.

LT: Thank you for the advice! Our readers will be happy to hear it. Veering very briefly toward personal preferences, when you choose to "indulge" in AR and ABDL media yourself, do you have any recommendations? Are there any links to sites, blogs, photographers, authors, or artists that you find personally pleasing and would like to share/recommend to other AR/ABDL readers?

RR: For feel good stuff, or boredom, when I wanna look at AR/ABDL related stuff, I usually enjoy what abysitter does on his blog - www.abysitter.blogspot.com, and for stories, I usually keep up with the AR Archive - www.ararchive.com... But outside of that, if I randomly see something or are referred to it, I generally will look at and/or read it and move on, haha. I, personally, enjoy posting content more than viewing it within the AR/ABDL communities.

LT: And we’re quite grateful for your candor. Do you have a sense of duty to those younger than you to help guide them in these provinces? More importantly, were a 14-year-old boy or girl ashamed of his or her affinity for diapers reading this right now, what would you like to say to him or her?

RR: I would absolutely love nothing more than to be able to help/guide younger people in that situation. I was in it and didn’t have much help, my passion is Adolescent/Teen Psychology, and overall I feel like I could do it without straying anyone in the wrong path. To anyone reading this, I honestly dunno what to say. When I was that age, I did find this amazing article on some random Yahoo Geocities that I wish I could have shared with the world. Looking back, I know a lot that I’d want to improve on it with, but overall, it was an amazing starting point. It’s so hard to say something for everyone though, as each person has a different situation and personality. The generic guidelines I could say is just to be careful. While it’s not hard to make friends in the ABDL community [and for the rest of this question, I can only answer for ABDL - not AR communities], it is incredibly easy to make the wrong friends. Yes, there is a huge lack of places someone that young can go, which is kind of sad. Even dprbys.net has really fallen since I found it years ago. You shouldn’t feel ashamed for liking this type of stuff, rather, you should feel inquisitive to learn more about it. We have all been through a binge/purge cycles, probably more than once. That being said, I would strongly urge you to research. Some sources will claim ABDL to be a disorder, making it very off putting, others will say it is amazing to do 24/7. You’re so young that buying into either side of that spectrum is only going to hurt you in the long run. The best thing to do would be to try and remove yourself from what people say and try to wear once or twice if possible and see if you literally like the physical feeling. What you do in them is up to your experimentation. From there, you can do the same trial and error with AR - though I have no clue where at online for that age. The key is slowly learning through self experimentation. When I first learned about ABDL, I thought it was tiny. And that everyone, for the most part, is the same. But it’s far from that. ABDL is a huge and complex umbrella that houses so many different types of people that allowing one person to govern what you do with it at an early age is only a set up for a long road of pain or discomfort.

LT: Well said, and thank you-- that will be extremely helpful to younger readers who feel marginalized by their under-18 status. To those people who are dreaming of a play partner or a relationship vis-a-vis ABDL/AR, would you like to give some background as to the summer vacation you’ll be taking next month?

RR: Haha I’m not sure how much my trip will apply, since her and I have known one another for over two years now and date. But, to those wanting it, I highly recommend actually getting to know each other first. And not to take the first person avaliable or the closest to you. Though finding someone is not always easy, unless you happen to live in a state that seems to have a large portion of ABDLs [anywhere near Austin, TX], settling for a random person just due to close proximity is not always a bright solution. But again, learning one another is the only real advice. Each individual would have to make the choice to meet or not. And I wouldn’t go into meeting someone for the first time and assuming a lot will happen. Especially if it is your very first time ever with someone for ABDL play. There will probably be that awkward tension. As a reminder, just because something is easy to do with role play online, doesn’t make it automatically easy to carry out in person. So always try to keep pace with each other. You will get so much more satisfaction out of multiple visits with a build up than a single visit that feels rushed.

LT: Has there ever been an experience related to AR/ABDL that has really bummed you out?

RR: Well, with ABDL, I went through the Binge/Purge cycle twice, and it always felt like a bummer on both sides of it. But after that, I haven’t had a situation that has fully bummed me out. I was in an ABDL family once, and the Daddy and I didn’t see eye to eye on most things. So I eventually left. But even in that regard, I used it more as a way to fortify who I was, and my beliefs.

LT: Now, for our readers’ edification, could you explain exactly what you mean by "binge/purge cycle" so that up-and-coming ABDLs can identify it by hearing it from an authority?

RR: The Binge/Purge cycle is something a lot of people come across when they are first discovering a new hobby/activity/life style. When you learn of something new that excites you, you generally invest more time into it, to learn about it, than would be required because you are rushing to achieve the goal, usually unknowingly. This would be the Binge. The Purge is the following phase in which you feel that you have done the activity so much that it now begins to disgust you and thus you try to banish it from your life. In the case of ABDL, this is usually done by throwing out anything you have collected for the lifestyle. Such as remaining diapers/padding, baby gear (bottles, pacis), and some go as far as deleting themselves and all content they have posted. After some time has passed, however, one of three things happen. Either the Binge/Purge restarts, you fully remove it from your life indefinitely, or you come back to it at a slower pace, and keep retrying until you find a median that fits your life style. The third option being the most healthy option, and at that point, most, if not all, feeling of being ashamed should be removed from yourself.

LT: There will be many readers who are appreciative of your ability to acquire and integrate baby gear with your ABDL play-- but do you have any advice for teens who want to acquire these diapers or other objects discretely and without that gnawing feeling of panic? Explanations, hiding places, philosophies? A toolbox so that the teen baby can feel more comfortable in his or her own home.

RR: Getting diapers can be difficult without the ability to order online. Near impossible before having their own form of transportation. Walmart, Kmart, and all pharmacies carry adult diapers, and depending on your size, teens can usually still fit into Goodnites if they are small enough. While none of these will give you the greatest form of absorbancy there is to offer, they will give you the sensation you will be looking for, and are great for experimenting. Fear of obtaining them in public is pretty common, and carries with you for a long time. However, I’ve come to learn that a cashier pays attention to what they are ringing up way less than most would think. Sure, they are looking at the products, but they are only associate who you are with the products if you are making a big deal about them or are purchasing something that requires ID. That being said, if you do get asked about them, which they aren’t supposed to do by the way, you can always pull out a small white lie. The two I usually went with as a teen were "they are for someone else" or "as a gag gift." I’ve never had someone ask more questions than that. As for baby objects, I would buy them completely separate from adult diapers. Doing so allows you to purchase them without suspicion and therefore almost never being questioned. If you do buy the two together, I would always go with the "gag gift" excuse if questioned, as it is more believable. Hiding places are honestly dependant on the person hiding them. Bottom of closests and under beds are good areas, but if all else fails, you can get a small pack of diapers, remove them from the package, and hide them separated between mattresses. No one really looks there.

LT: That is a veritable motherlode of information... I wish I had advice like that 15 years ago! Thank you so much for sharing your experience-- before we conclude, is there anything you want to add to this discussion I haven’t touched upon yet?

RR: You’re very welcome. And not that I can really think of, haha. Just be smart and safe about your actions and if anyone needs someone to talk to, I pretty much live online =p

LT: You’re not the only one! The website is scenestercrinkle dot com*, and it’s a great blog and resource for anybody into ABDL and age regression. What would you like to tell, or ask of, a first-time visitor who is about to go to your website right now?

RR: I would tell them that while the gallery is giant, and I am most known for my pics/vids, it means a lot more to me for people to read my written work and actually explore around. And also that my site is still very much a work in progress behind the scenes, and thus feedback and/or doing the survey helps a lot for me to further my progress!

LT: Well, I’m sure a lot of people are going to be inspired to help you along your way, just as you’ve helped untold numbers of people just by spending this time with me this afternoon. Special thanks to RobbiexRainbow-- the website again is scenestercrinkle dot com*!

2014 NOTE:

* -=- The site promoted here, scenestercrinkle, has since disappeared from the internet. Whether it is gone, or it has simply moved... please get in touch with us, RR! It would be a shame (the bad kind) for all that beautiful photography to have gone to waste.